the friend who stood me up was supposedly afraid to phone me because i might lash out at him for making me wait for nothing. well, he's a bit right about that. i guess he really knows me. his excuse? he was bedridden and he didn't have the morsel of energy to let me know that he won't show up. is that reason enough? maybe my judgement is a little fuzzed up because of anger but that wasn't valid enough for me.